Dating Coach
Author of
The Global Guide to Divorce
Divorce can be a lonely time. You may have gone out as a couple and are at loose ends how to pick up your life without your social director (spouse). It can be especially challenging how to meet other guys when introverted. Or you may not feel comfortable sharing your fears and concerns with co-workers. etc. It’s easy to feel you are alone and not realise many other men are also going through transitions such as divorce. What is the remedy? Join a men’s group or club.
Ways to connect with others
What sport did you enjoy in the past? Get back into rugby or whatever and have fun while making connections. Sometimes after playing, there is social time at a pub.
Check with your local church, synagogue or mosque to see what men’s group is available. For example, Rothley Church Men’s Group in Leicester (RCMG ) has The Men’s Breakfast Club, and various events such as a walk in nature. Their Monday night men’s meetings have lively conversation with guest speakers. Their aim is “to offer the opportunity to all men to meet in fellowship: sharing and learning from life’s experiences….”
Men’s Groups
Groups vary in different ways. Some are social and others more like group therapy. In all, you will meet people and possibly make new friends. The websites show the nuances between them. The rule of confidentiality is common for all. What is said in the room stays in the room. Men’s groups provide a safe space for sharing concerns and problems. They are non-judgmental. You learn from others what has worked and what did not. The men’s groups listed are suggestions to get you started.
Men’s Support Group – London – Meetup ‘discuss mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, and other challenges providing a supportive and non-judgmental environment for men to share their experiences, thoughts, and feelings. The aim is to create a sense of community and connection among men who may be struggling with similar issues. “
MenSpeak Men’s Groups (In-person & Online) – Meetup “are facilitated, not lead, and our spaces are non-hierarchical and non-clinical. We meet the needs of the men present and follow wherever the conversation naturally takes us. There isn’t a right or wrong way of doing things. This group is more conversational than group therapy. “
Men’s Circles ~ London ~ in Person ~ Man Academy – Meetup purpose is to “authentically connect with men, on a deep level and develop a sense of brotherhood. To decompress, debrief and take the edge off. Learn tools to move forward in life. These small groups have a maximum of eight members which ensure men get to know and trust each other.”
The ManKind Project UK and Ireland helps men get support from each other to go deeply into their issues, and gain clarity. Mankind Project is “A global network of free peer-facilitated men’s groups and supports men in leading lives of integrity, authenticity, and service.” It is structured and not a venue for casual conversation. Its foundation is based upon Jungian principles. Some men are not comfortable with this structure which is like group therapy, and other men like it.
Connecting with others helps the divorce process to be less stressful. You realise others are on the same journey.
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Wendi Schuller
Wendi Schuller is a dating coach who helps people after divorce and break-ups to start dating again. She is a hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner and a nurse. She wrote The Global Guide To Divorce. https://globalguidetodivorce.com
She writes the Jack Jack The Cat series for children.