Child Development Psychologist
Founder of The Divorce Magazine
There’s something about divorce that forces out your creative side and teaches you how to become financially stable.
You learn how to cope with problems and manage to find the most amazing solutions to overcoming the hurdles that come your way.
There are many, both men and women, who find themselves in dire financial situations after the divorce process with little chance of either working full-time because of the children or getting good enough employment because it’s been a while since they worked for someone else.
What I see in divorce are the amazing opportunities that it presents people in creating something that works best for them.
I’m talking about finding a way to bear financial stability by retraining, starting your business or working for yourself in one form or other. Many have done it and many will continue doing it.
If you’re thinking of retraining and are not sure what you want to do or which direction you would like to go, I would suggest taking your time looking through the floodlight website, finding as many courses as you can that you may have even a slight interest in, list them and then shortlist further to a total of 5. Then enrol on the first course.
If you fall in love with your first choice then great! If not move on down to the second choice and so on and so forth.
I realise that floodlight only applies to Londoners but it shouldn’t prevent you from looking through the course list and then checking if your preferred courses are being offered in your own area.
When it comes to starting your own business, best thing to do is first find out if there is indeed a need for the type of service or product you wish to launch. Do your research. Ask your family and friends what they think then get down to writing your business plan.
Avoid being inflexible and remain open to ideas and criticism, but never give up on your wish to be an entrepreneur! If he first idea doesn’t seem all that good after all, then what else can you do?
Some people find franchising a good way of working for themselves while others feel that it prevents you from being as creative as you would like as you have to adhere to your franchisor’s rules and regulations.
I did it for a few years back in the early 90s, when I ran an after school French club for children and loved it. I made money without having to create the products, all I had to do was find something that I knew I would enjoy selling and voila, everything fell into place.
Facing financial difficulties after divorce is so very common but it doesn’t mean that your situation has to remain the same in your life after divorce does it?
If you have the drive, the wish and the need, you will find a way. Of course it’s not easy. Nothing good ever comes easy. Free yourself from what you don’t want in your life after divorce.
We are so lucky to be living in an era where anything is possible including building your life by learning how to become financially stable. To borrow a line from a known company, go on, “just do it.”
Soila is the founder of The Divorce Magazine and creator of the five-star-rated online course – Helping Children Cope with Divorce
She is known for taking away the pain of trauma and loss in children, adolescents and their families.
Soila holds an MSc in Psychoanalytic Developmental Psychology from UCL (University College London), is an accredited Positive Parenting Program (Triple P) practitioner and a trained Family Mediator.
Soila is Graduate Member of the British Psychological Society.
You can contact her on 07850 85 60 66 or via email soila@thedivorcemagazine.co.uk