The sun is warm on my cheeks, my long hair is twirling in the wind, and I am smiling. The new summer grass is prickling my bare legs as I adjusted my skirt beneath me. The small grassy hill is lumpy and
I was married to a liar for 25 years. At a very personal level, I have first-hand knowledge of the devastation lying creates in people’s lives. I know that liars can be clever, charming, smug, and thoroughly convincing. Scott Peck, in People
Twenty years after my divorce, I can remember — vividly — the books that saved me during those early days of finding my way alone. Each book gave me something- the language, hope, and understanding- to help me process the trauma. Millions
Have you ever heard of someone who has made the statement like “I wish I could have had this or that but it’s not going to happen for me?” In the early stages of divorce I would look at married couples and
Who knew that grand-parenting would be so much fun? Who knew I’d be a solo grandma? It was understood in my marriage that somewhere in the future we would be very proud grandparents together. However, like many baby boomers, our marriage didn’t
This year, 2016, is officially 20 years after my marriage breakup. For those of us who grew up in the 1950s, we thought the future would be much like our parents. We married, had families, but then, unlike our parents, many of
On Golden Pond clinched it. We watched it, cried through the credits and saw ourselves years in the future. He, the crotchety Henry Fonda, and me, the delightfully aged Katharine Hepburn — opening the cottage each spring. We’d remark on all the
Listening to a friend talk about their divorce, I pause and think — this all sounds familiar. My friend details the lead up to her separation and there are so many similarities it’s a bit unnerving. Same actions, same words, same behaviour.
Grandparents play a special role in our lives. What happens to that relationship in the midst of divorce/separation? Sometimes, the dynamics become skewed and very complicated. Reshaping the grandchild/grandparent relationship becomes inevitable. Is the role of the grandparent minimized and sometimes eliminated
The first 3 days without my ex-husband in our home was terrifying for me. I could not sleep because I was constantly checking windows, doors, kids, and then I would start the rotation all over again until daylight. After those three days
Couples Coaching for 2017 – The case of Clive and Romaine Smith, an excellent example of how some timely talking and listening can help save a relationship. This example also demonstrates that couples coaching is about practicalities and problem solving. Not so
Some people have chosen to stay together until after the holidays for a variety of reasons. It may be to give the children one last Christmas together. One agony aunt printed a letter from a woman whose daughter-in-law is filing for divorce