No Fault Divorce UK

This topic provides comprehensive information on the new no-fault system - including its implications for the divorce process, timelines, and how it marks a significant shift in family law, simplifying the process and reducing potential conflict between separating couples.

Coldplay, Cheating and the Courts: What the Law Really Says About Adultery
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Coldplay, Cheating and the Courts: What the Law Really Says About Adultery

Ellen Nicholas
Ellen Nicholas
Solicitor
Roythornes Solicitors

A few months after a “kiss-cam” moment at a Coldplay concert shook the internet, the ripples are still being felt, both in headlines and potentially in courtrooms. A viral clip showed a well-known tech CEO embracing someone other than his wife, namely the company’s HR manager, sparking widespread speculation about personal and professional fallout.

Consequences of such affairs can carry several after-effects, legal ones too. Yet while the scandal dominates the public imagination, the law around adultery and divorce can tell a far more restrained story.

What counts as adultery in law?

In everyday conversation, ‘cheating’ can be synonymous with everything from text messages to emotional betrayal. English law, however, draws the line more narrowly. Legally, adultery is defined as sexual intercourse between a married person and someone who is not their spouse. Acts short of this – however damaging they may be to trust within a relationship – do not qualify as adultery under the law.

That legal definition often surprises those who expect the courts to reflect the moral weight of infidelity. But the direction of travel in family law has been clear: away from blame and toward resolution.

No-fault divorce and the end of ‘blame’

In April 2022, the ‘no-fault divorce’ has entered the legal terrain. Previously, adultery could be pleaded as a ground for divorce, and while rarely contested, it kept the language of fault alive in petitions. Now, all that is required is a simple statement that the marriage has broken down irretrievably. No proof, no reason, no explanation and certainly no tabloid-worthy evidence are required.

The reform was designed to lower the temperature. By removing the need to point fingers, it gives separating couples a greater chance to part amicably, without animosity. For those experiencing betrayal, this can feel rather unsatisfying. The law no longer distinguishes between a relationship that ends quietly and one that explodes on unruliness.

High-profile divorce vs everyday divorce

The distinction, however, lies not in the courts but in the court of public opinion. For the average couple, an affair can be a painful yet private devastation, handled quietly within the family. For celebrities or business leaders, it becomes a defining story for their public image, highly scrutinised by the press, shareholders and the public alike.

Legally, however, both divorces follow the same process. A Hollywood actor’s affair may fill column inches, but when it comes before a judge, the legal questions are identical to those facing any other couple: how to divide assets fairly and, where children are involved, how to ensure their wellbeing and welfare are looked after.

Does adultery change financial settlements?

Contrary to common belief, adultery has almost no bearing on how finances are settled in divorce. The guiding principle for the courts is need: ensuring both parties, and any children, are adequately provided for. Being unfaithful does not diminish one’s entitlement to a fair division of assets.

There are exceptions, but they are rare. If, for instance, one spouse has channelled marital funds extravagantly into conducting an affair – where examples can include luxury holidays, gifts or property purchases – that reckless spending could be raised. Even then, it requires strong evidence and is unlikely to tip the scales dramatically.

What about the children?

In cases where children are involved, the law is even clearer. The paramount concern of the courts is the welfare of the child. Adultery, in and of itself, is not considered a reason to limit contact between parent and child. Only where a parent’s new relationship puts the child at risk – for example, if it involves unsafe environments – would the court intervene.

This principle reflects a broader truth: children’s wellbeing should not become collateral damage in their parents’ disputes. While one parent’s anger or sense of betrayal may be real and raw, arrangements for children must rise above any animosity.

Beyond scandal: a system built on resolution

Public scandals remind us of how messy human relationships can be. But divorce law in England and Wales has shifted decisively away from punishing misconduct and toward managing outcomes. The aim is to provide a supportive framework for families in transition, not to mete out moral judgment.

For those navigating the end of a marriage – whether quietly or under the glare of cameras – the same structures apply. Infidelity may devastate trust and reshape lives, but in the eyes of the law, it is no longer a decisive factor. What matters most is fairness, respective needs and the ongoing wellbeing of any children.

And while no court can resolve the hurt of betrayal, the system is designed to give couples the tools to move forward – with as little hostility as possible, even in situations when the world might be watching.

Read more articles by Roythornes Solicitors.

About Ellen Nicholas

Ellen is a Solicitor in our Family Team at Roythornes Solicitors. She is passionate about assisting and supporting clients through challenging times in their lives. Her dedication and expertise ensure that clients receive clear, compassionate, and effective legal support tailored to their individual circumstances.

Help Shape the Future of Support for Separated Families
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Help Shape the Future of Support for Separated Families

Soila Sindiyo
Dr Soila Sindiyo
Counselling Psychologist and Founding Editor of The Divorce Magazine

We’ve been contacted by Dr Sarah Foley, Lecturer in Developmental Psychology at the University of Edinburgh, about an exciting new research project exploring parenting after divorce or separation.

The Parenting After Divorce or Separation Study aims to better understand family life and children’s wellbeing in different post-separation child arrangements, particularly in families who have not gone through the court system.

This research will help inform future support for separated parents and their children, filling an important gap in what we know about post-separation family experiences.

Who Can Take Part?

The research team is looking to hear from parents who:

  • Have children aged 4–8
  • Live in Scotland or England
  • Are comfortable taking part in English
  • Have been separated for at least six months
  • Have regular contact with their child
  • Do not have a court-ordered child arrangement

What’s Involved?

If you take part, you’ll be asked to:

  • Join a confidential online interview and complete a survey
  • Optionally involve your child in child-friendly storytelling or game-based activities

(These are completely optional and designed to be fun and engaging for children)

Participation is entirely voluntary and confidential.

How to Get Involved

If you meet the criteria above, or know someone who does, you can learn more and register your interest here.

For questions about the study, you can contact Dr Sarah Foley directly at:
sarah.foley@ed.ac.uk

We’ll be sharing the findings of this important research once the study is complete. By taking part, you’ll be helping to build a deeper understanding of how separated families live, parent, and thrive, and how support can be improved in the future.

Divorce in England: The Divorce Capitals Revealed in 2025
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Divorce in England: The Divorce Capitals Revealed in 2025

Chris Sweetman
Chris Sweetman
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Sponsored post by Fair Result.

The festive season is often a time of joy and togetherness, but for some, it’s also a period of reflection that leads to major life decisions as they enter the new year. Family law firms regularly report a spike in the number of divorce related enquiries every January, and we see the same here at Fair-Result. This has led to the first working Monday of the year being dubbed ‘Divorce Day‘, for 2025, falling on 6th January 2025.

But is this a real trend? And what does the latest data reveal about divorce in the England today? Here at Fair Result we take a look at the latest trends in divorce across England.

Why January? Understanding the post holiday enquiries

The first quarter of each year is traditionally a peak time for divorces to commence, with firms reporting that January see’s the largest number of enquiries for divorce. So why is this?

  • Festive Realisations: with couples spending more time together over the festive period it can often bring unresolved issues to light
  • Cost of Living Pressures: the cost of Christmas as well as the ongoing cost of living crisis experienced by many can add further strain to an already fragile relationship
  • Delaying for Family Reasons: many couples will wait until after the holidays to prioritise family time together during the celebrations

Whilst January does see a general rise in divorce enquiries, the latest statistics do tell a different story:

Divorce Trends in 2024

  • January to March 2024 saw a total of 29,557 divorce applications being made, compared to the same period last year, this marks a 6% decrease
  • April to June applications in 2024 reported a total of 26,928, and July to September 2024 resulted in a total of 27,003 applications
  • The first 9 months of 2024, the total number of applications represented a 1.8% increase when compared to the first nine months of 2023
  • The average age of divorce continues to increase, with the average age of men being 47 when they divorce in 2023 compared to 44 in 2013, and women being 45, compared to 42 10 years ago, this shift reflects the bigger picture of couple marrying later in life and the fact that more people are now reportedly single.

Does where you live Impact Divorce Rates?

According to ONS and Census data, coastal towns of England dominate the Divorce Capitals of England reporting the highest number of divorced individuals. Top of the list is Norwich which has 12.8% of its population determined as being previously divorced.

Top Divorce Capitals in England 2024

  • Norwich: 12.8%
  • Hastings: 12.1%
  • Blackpool: 12.1%
  • Lincoln: 11.9%

Based on the top 10 located for individuals, 90% of these are coastal towns.

Why Coastal Towns?

Several factors could be considered when assessing the number of divorced individuals that reside within coastal towns in England:

  • Fresh Starts: coastal areas may attract individuals seeking a new beginning following their divorce
  • Affordability: with lower living costs, this can often make coastal towns more appealing to individuals post divorce
  • Demographics: many coastal towns have older populations which could increase the number of divorces and also some of the coastal towns often are reported to have high levels of deprivation

Regional Divorce Trends and ‘Divorce’ Searches

The team at Fair-Result have been doing some research over the festive period to explore the regions of the UK where the most people have searched ‘divorce’ during 2024. Top of the list comes the East of England with 30% of searches people 1,000 people carrying out divorce related searches on Google.

Here are the results per region of the UK for 2024:

  1. East of England: 30%
  2. East Midlands: 25%
  3. South West: 24%
  4. South East: 22%
  5. Yorkshire and the Humber: 21%
  6. West Midlands: 20%
  7. North West: 19%
  8. Greater London: 13%
  9. North East: 12%

These patterns follow the national census data with the East of England, South West and South East containing many coastal towns and cities within England. Individual areas reporting the highest volume of searches in the top 10 are as follows:

  1. Essex: 50% (possibly inflated due to its inclusion in TOWIE)
  2. East Riding: 31%
  3. Lincolnshire: 30%
  4. Shropshire: 30%
  5. Lancashire: 30%
  6. Darlington: 29%
  7. Dorset: 29%
  8. Durham: 28%
  9. Kent: 28%
  10. Norfolk: 28%

How Likely are you to get Divorced?

The likelihood of divorce can be determined by many factors, but statistics reveal that most divorces occur between 3 to 8 years of marriage, with the peak being between 4 and 5 years. Couples who surpass 8 years of marriage are statistically more likely to remain married long-term.

However, the latest data does report an increase in the number of ‘Silver Splitters’ where divorces amongst those individuals aged 60+ have risen by over 23% in the last decade, reflecting the societal changes and attitudes towards later-life relationships.

How Long does it take to get Divorced in 2025?

With the introduction of The Divorce, Dissolution and Separation Act 2020 (effective April 6, 2022) the divorce process has simplified, removing the need for blame, evidence of adultery or periods of separation (find out more about the new process), but timelines remain substantial:

  • Average time to conditional order: 31 weeks.
  • Average time to final order: 42 weeks.

Support for those Facing Divorce

Divorce can be one of life’s most challenging experiences, emotionally, financially, and practically. While the process can feel overwhelming, we have many resources available to help you navigate this period and move forward confidently.

1. Understanding Legal Practice and Guidance

Understanding your legal rights and options is crucial during a divorce. Working with the right professionals can help simplify the process and ensure a fair outcome, here at Fair Result we specialise in offering transparent, cost-effective divorce solutions. Our innovative approach minimises stress while ensuring fair outcomes for both parties.

2. Financial Planning and Advice

Divorce often brings significant financial changes, from dividing assets to planning for a new future. Proper financial planning can help you feel more secure and prepared. With our tailored financial advice, helping you understand and navigate the division of assets, pensions, and other financial considerations. Read more: Financial Advice and Divorce Settlements

3. Emotional Support

Divorce is not just a legal process—it’s an emotional journey. Seeking support from professionals and trusted networks can help you cope with the changes. Through our networks we can provide you with the advice needed and support required. If you are looking for information post divorce, The Divorce Magazine is a brilliant source of information and support.

4. Co-Parenting Support

For those with children, divorce often involves complex parenting decisions. Creating a co-parenting plan can help reduce conflict and prioritise the well-being of your children. Take a look at our Guide for Parents

5. Planning for the Future

After divorce, it’s essential to rebuild and focus on your future. Whether this involves securing housing, returning to work, or pursuing personal goals, resources are available to help you take the next steps confidently. Fair Result Limited offers guidance on rebuilding life post-divorce, including practical advice and planning strategies.

Next Steps

If you are considering a divorce in 2025 please contact the team here at Fair Result or call us on 0333 577 7009 for a free consultation. Alternatively you can access our Free Guide to Divorce

Regardless of how you contact the team we will work with you confidentially and provide you with the right advice and support during this time.

Get in Touch

Call us at 07 500 933 818 or 0333 577 7009

Email peter@fair-result.co.uk or chris@fair-result.co.uk

Read more articles by Chris Sweetman.

About Chris Sweetman

Chris Sweetman is an independent family solicitor and director of Fair Result – An award-winning law office who pride themselves on using innovative ways to help clients through the stress and complications of a marriage breakdown.

Chris can be contacted on 07500933818 or via email chris@fair-result.co.uk.

How to Prepare for Divorce: Steps to Take Before Filing
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How to Prepare for Divorce: Steps to Take Before Filing

Chris Sweetman
Chris Sweetman
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Sponsored post by Fair Result.

Divorce is an emotional and life-changing process. If you’re considering ending your marriage, knowing how to prepare before you file can make a significant difference in the outcome. With the right preparation, you can avoid common pitfalls and protect both your emotional wellbeing and financial future. Whether you’re seeking guidance on the divorce process or looking for effective divorce solutions, this guide will walk you through the essential steps to take before filing for divorce.

Step 1: Evaluate Your Reasons for Divorce

Before filing for divorce, it’s important to take the time to reflect on why you want to end the marriage. Divorce is a major decision that affects your life, your children (if you have any), and your finances. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Have you considered marriage counselling or therapy?
  • Is this a temporary conflict or a long-term issue?
  • Are you financially prepared for the divorce process?

If you’ve weighed the pros and cons and feel that divorce is the right path, then it’s time to start preparing.

Step 2: Prepare Financial Documentation

One of the most important steps before filing for divorce is organising your financial records. Divorce settlements heavily rely on accurate and complete financial information. Collect the following documents:

  • Tax returns (last 3–5 years).
  • Bank statements and financial accounts (savings, checking, retirement).
  • Investment portfolios.
  • Mortgage and property information.
  • Pay slips and employment records.
  • Debts (credit cards, loans, etc.)

These documents will provide a clear picture of your financial standing, making it easier to negotiate a fair divorce settlement. If you’re looking for divorce solutions that can help you manage this process efficiently, consider reaching out to Fair Result.

Step 3: Understand and Prepare for the Divorce Process

Divorce laws and processes vary depending on your location. In the UK, you can file for divorce using one of two methods: a sole application or a joint application. It’s crucial to understand which option is best suited for your situation. Here’s a brief overview:

  • Sole Divorce Application: One spouse files for divorce without the other’s participation. This may occur when the divorce is contested, or the spouses are not on good terms.
  • Joint Divorce Application: Both spouses agree to the divorce and file together. This is often the less contentious route and can lead to a smoother and faster resolution.

Understanding which route to take will help you set realistic expectations about timelines and costs. In 2024, the average time from filing to a final divorce order for sole applications was around 49 weeks, while for joint applications, it was 43 weeks. Keep this in mind as you prepare for the process ahead.

Step 4: Plan for Your Children’s Wellbeing

If you and your spouse have children, their wellbeing must be at the forefront of your divorce preparations. The family court system prioritises the best interests of the children, and so should you. Consider the following:

  • Where will your children live?
  • How will custody and visitation be divided?
  • What financial support arrangements need to be made?

Make sure you understand the legal aspects of child custody, support, and visitation agreements in your area. It’s also important to keep the lines of communication open with your spouse when it comes to parenting decisions. If you’re unsure about any of these aspects, seeking advice from an experienced family law professional can help you find the right divorce solutions.

Step 5: Consider Your Living Situation

Divorce often means a significant change in living arrangements. If you’re living with your spouse, you should plan whether one of you will move out or if you will continue living together during the divorce proceedings. The decision may depend on:

  • Ownership or rental agreements.
  • Financial stability and ability to afford separate housing.
  • Custody arrangements for children.

In some cases, staying in the marital home during the divorce process might be necessary to ensure stability for the children or for financial reasons. However, if the environment becomes too toxic or stressful, moving out might be a better option for your mental health.

Step 6: Seek Legal Advice and Support

No matter how amicable your relationship with your spouse may seem, it is always in your best interest to prepare and consult with a family law expert before filing for divorce. Legal advice can help you avoid common pitfalls, such as agreeing to an unfair financial settlement or signing documents you don’t fully understand.

At Fair Result, we offer unique divorce solutions with fixed fees, ensuring that you won’t have to worry about escalating legal costs. Our team of divorce specialists is here to guide you through the entire process, sharing the financial risks with you. You pay nothing until your divorce is finalised, allowing you to focus on moving forward with confidence.

Step 7: Protect Your Emotional Wellbeing

Divorce is an emotional journey, and it’s easy to become overwhelmed by stress, anger, or sadness. Taking care of your mental health is just as important as the legal and financial aspects of divorce. Consider seeking emotional support from:

  • Therapists or counsellors
  • Divorce support groups
  • Trusted friends or family members

Maintaining a strong emotional foundation will help you stay focussed and make better decisions during the divorce process. Divorce solutions that address both the emotional and financial aspects are essential for a smoother transition.

Step 8: Budget for the Divorce Process

The financial impact of divorce can be significant, and it’s important to create a realistic budget for the process. Divorce costs can vary depending on the complexity of your case and the law firm you choose. The cost of living crisis has made many couples hesitant to move forward with divorce, but with the right legal team, you can minimise financial stress.

Fair Result offers a fixed-fee structure, meaning you won’t pay anything until your divorce settlement is finalised. This innovative approach allows you to avoid unexpected fees and prepare your finances with confidence.

Why Early Divorce Preparation Matters

Preparing for divorce before filing can save you time, money, and emotional stress. By following these steps and seeking professional guidance, you can ensure that you are prepared for the challenges ahead. Divorce solutions from trusted firms like Fair Result are designed to help you through the process with minimal disruption to your life.

Are you considering divorce?

Contact Fair Result today to learn how our expert team can assist you in navigating this difficult time. With our fixed-fee divorce solutions, you can rest assured that your financial and emotional wellbeing will be protected every step of the way.

Call: 07500933818 or 0333 577 7009

Email: peter@fair-result.co.uk or chris@fair-result.co.uk

Find out more about Fair Result.

Read more articles by Chris Sweetman.

About Chris Sweetman

Chris Sweetman is an independent family solicitor and director of Fair Result – An award-winning law office who pride themselves on using innovative ways to help clients through the stress and complications of a marriage breakdown.

Chris can be contacted on 07500933818 or via email chris@fair-result.co.uk.

Breaking Down Divorce: Answering the UK's Top Google Searches
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Breaking Down Divorce: Answering the UK’s Top Google Searches

Lauren Laverick
Lauren Laverick
Solicitor
Beecham Peacock Solicitors

Divorces are an intimidating legal process to those who aren’t in the know – after all, who entering a marriage considers the possibility that so many dread? This leaves many partners feeling blindsided, overwhelmed and turning to the internet for quick answers.

Compared to July 2023, Google searches for “cheap divorce lawyers near me” have risen by 200%. The problem many find themselves in is that the internet can provide inaccurate information, but many solicitors charge for initial consultation calls, and so the costly divorce process begins before new singles can come to terms with their situation.

We have turned to Newcastle family law specialists Beecham Peacock Solicitors for their answers to the UK’s most-searched divorce questions, using Google search data to collate the queries and trusted solicitors to answer them accurately.

How much does a divorce cost?

“There are several factors that can affect how much a divorce costs, mainly depending on whether the divorce sees the inside of a courtroom or if the couple opts for a no-fault divorce,” Beecham Peacock divorce solicitor, Lauren Laverick, explains. “If couples do agree to a more amicable no-fault divorce, the costs will typically comprise of legal advice, drafting divorce petitions and the handling of necessary paperwork. The standard fee when applying for a no-fault divorce is £593 before additional solicitor charges, which will vary depending on your solicitor and case.”

How to get a divorce.

“To start the legal process of filing for a divorce, you first have to check that your marriage meets the minimum criteria: you must have been married for one year, your marriage must be recognised in the UK and either you or your spouse must be living in England or Wales, as separate rules affect Scotland,” Lauren explains. “Thanks to the no-fault divorce system, neither party has to accept any wrongdoing for the breakdown of the marriage.

“Next, you must apply for a divorce application, which can be done by post or through the UK government’s website. This application will ask for personal details relating to the circumstances of the divorce, including children and financial arrangements,” Lauren continues. “This form can be completed by yourself or a hired solicitor. Once accepted, a copy will be sent to your spouse, who must acknowledge receipt of the letter and confirm that they agree.

“If your spouse agrees, the rest of the process comes down to sorting legal documents which can be arranged by your solicitor. If your spouse disagrees, based on grounds of finances or child custody, then these issues must be resolved,” Lauren says. “This is where you can lean on your solicitor to guide you through an amicable compromise, negotiating with your spouse through mediation, collaborative law processes, or if the disagreement cannot be settled, a more costly court hearing.

“Your solicitor will be crucial during this process if it comes to it – they will have your best interests at heart and protect your rights in the divorce process,” Lauren adds. “Once an agreement is made, you’ll apply for a conditional order, the first of two decrees needed to finalise the process. This informs the court that the divorce can proceed based on the information you’ve given. Then, if the court is satisfied, they will issue a certificate allowing you to apply for the final order.

Around six weeks from the completion of the first order, you can apply for the final order – legally ending the marriage. Once this is accepted, you are officially divorced.”

How long does a divorce take?

“The length of the divorce depends on the complexity of the case, mainly dictated by disagreements between you and your spouse in accepting the initial application,” Lauren says. “The average time to complete a divorce procedure is seven months, but this process will rely heavily on a solicitor processing forms swiftly and finding resolutions between disagreements if they arise, which could extend the time it takes to finalise the divorce.”

How many marriages end in divorce?

“The most recent statistics from the Office of National Statistics showed just over 80,000 divorces in 2022. We can work out from this data that 34.2% of marriages, on average, end in divorce,” Lauren says. “That’s lower than the often-heard claim, ‘half of marriages end in divorce’, but it still leaves many disappointed, stressed and emotionally struggling singles who never imagined they’d be in this position,” Lauren continues.

“It’s the lowest number of divorces there’s been since 1972, however. Hopefully this trend continues and there will be more happy couples as the years go on.”

How much does a divorce cost if both parties agree?

“If both parties agree to the divorce and to the terms, then we can assume this question relates to couples who have filed for a no-fault divorce and agree completely on the nuances of the divorce procedure – including details of finance considerations and child custody arrangements with no amendments,” Lauren continues.

“In this instance, the divorce will be completed as quickly as possible and with no court fees. This means that the average cost of an uncontested divorce will range from £600–£2,000, including the £593 government application form. The range of payment will therefore depend on how much your solicitor charges to process the divorce,” Lauren explains.

“This is why it is important to explore your options when searching for a solicitor, finding a balance between someone who you know will represent your interests well and who is also within your desired budget. As with most things, paying someone who can do the job right the first time may actually save you money compared to someone who can do it cheaply but inefficiently.”

Are you currently at the beginning stages of filing for divorce? If so, we hope your process goes as swiftly and as painlessly as possible.

Read more articles by Beecham Peacock Solicitors.

About Beecham Peacock

Established in 1953, Beecham Peacock is one of the North East’s leading law firms with a wealth of experience in a myriad of different legal fields. Its team of expert solicitors includes specialists in wills, trusts and probate, personal injury, family law and employment law. The firm also offers a wide range of other legal services.

Divorce and Separation Checklist
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Divorce and Separation Checklist

Emma Alfieri
Emma Alfieri
Legal Director
Greene & Greene Solicitors

Since the changes to divorce law (in England and Wales) on 6th April 2022, it is now relatively straight forward for individuals to obtain a divorce on-line. The welcome changes have helped parties to navigate the divorce process in a more simplified way meaning individuals going through the divorce process no longer have to consult a divorce lawyer.

Whilst the new ‘fault free’ divorce law has been beneficial to divorcing couples in saving costs and reducing conflict, there are a worrying number of individuals who now take no legal advice whatsoever. This is concerning in relation to dividing the family finances as becoming divorced does not ‘close off’ financial matters and therefore financial claims are often left open, with the individuals blissfully unaware.

Therefore we would always advise individuals going through divorce to have at least one session of legal advice so they have full knowledge of the perils and pitfalls of divorce.  Below are some key points :

Seek early legal advice

It is important to seek legal advice early.  An initial consultation can be invaluable and is often much less daunting than one might think. Family lawyers are very ‘normal’ people who will listen and not judge.

Therapy/ counsellor

If there is a possibility of getting the relationship back on track, a joint marriage counsellor or therapist may be useful. If the relationship is over, an individual therapist or counsellor can help individuals to work through the issues surrounding the separation and to help to deal with the transition.

Try to keep things amicable

Try to be pragmatic and reasonable where possible as this will make the separation much easier to deal with. Try and work together, particularly where there are children involved. Arguing over minor issues and matters of principle will increase conflict, stress and costs, and is rarely productive.

Living arrangements

Consider where both parties will live. Will this be in the same house together?  Sometimes this will be a necessity and is another reason to try and minimise the tension.  Alternatively, if one person will leave then a plan should be put in place for who that will be, where will they go and how two households will be funded.

Arrangements for children

The initial arrangements for the care of the children will be a priority. Take time to consider when and where they will see each parent.  Having an agreed plan in place from the offset will ensure it is as stress-free as possible for the whole family.  A parenting plan could help – Parenting Plan – Cafcass – Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service

Reaching agreements

If a financial agreement is reached between the parties, ensure the agreement is formalised in writing, and embodied into a Financial Remedy Order. If the agreement is verbal or not formalised in the correct way, beware – it will not be a binding agreement.

Alternatives to court

There are many alternatives to Court which should be considered to avoid court and reduce the tension, particularly where there are children involved.

Do not forget about pensions

The sharing of pensions is just as important as the sharing of capital assets such as property and must not be overlooked.  A Pension on Divorce Expert may need to be involved.

Financial and tax advice

It may be useful to speak to an accountant in relation to capital gains tax issues, for example, if more than one property is owned or if one party moves out and lives elsewhere, there could be adverse tax consequences.

Wills

It is important to consider making or updating any Will previously made to ensure that those named to inherit are still correct. It is also worthwhile considering death in service benefits under any pension provision.

This article is only intended to be a summary and not specific legal advice.

Read more articles by Emma Alfieri.

About Emma Alfieri

Emma Alfieri is a Legal Director at Suffolk firm Greene & Greene Solicitors.

Emma advises on all aspects of family law, including divorce and associated financial matters, disputes between cohabitants and child related disputes.

A member of Resolution, Emma is committed to resolving disputes as positively and agreeably as possible whilst also being motivated to obtain the best possible outcome for her clients.

Since 2012 Emma has been consistently recommended by the Legal 500 on an annual basis and in the most recent 2024 edition Emma is ranked as a “rising star”.

As an advocate of fault free divorce, Emma lobbied at Parliament with other members of Resolution in 2016 to bring about the recent changes to divorce law.

Navigating Infidelity During Divorce
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Navigating Infidelity During Divorce

Zoe Rose
Zoe Rose
Family Team Leader & Senior Associate
Hedges Law

Divorce is a complex process that involves legal, emotional, and social challenges. When infidelity enters the equation, it adds another layer to an already difficult situation. Infidelity fundamentally breaches the trust foundation of marital relationships. The discovery of infidelity often leads to a breakdown in communication and emotional connection between spouses. This can result in increased conflict during a separation and divorce.

The Emotional Impact

For the person who has discovered the infidelity, this revelation can cause feelings of betrayal and disillusionment. They may experience a loss of confidence in themselves and their ability to judge the character and motives of their partner. This can lead to a reassessment of their own needs and priorities, potentially shaping their approach to post-divorce life.

Children caught in the midst of infidelity during divorce may experience disruptions to their sense of stability and security. Witnessing parental conflict and emotional distress can impact their emotional well-being and may influence their attitudes towards relationships in the future. However, the extent of these effects can vary greatly from child to child depending on their age, temperament, and the level of conflict between parents.

Outside of the immediate family unit, infidelity can strain relationships with extended family members and mutual friends. Dividing loyalties and navigating interpersonal dynamics can create further tension and may lead to estrangements or fractures within social circles.

Despite the challenges posed by infidelity during divorce, there is room for resolution and growth. Couples who are willing to engage in open communication and seek support can find avenues for reconciliation or an amicable separation. Alternatively, individuals may use the experience of infidelity as an opportunity for self-reflection and personal development, leading to a more empowered approach to post-divorce life.

The Legal Impact

Whilst there is a clear emotional impact on divorce, there is no automatic impact to the legal processes or associated financial matters/arrangements for children.

Since the introduction of “no fault” divorce in April 2022, spouses can apply for a divorce on the ground that the marriage has broken down irretrievably without setting out any explanation. Whilst this means that either spouse could start divorce proceedings, to assist with the emotions that flow following the discovery of infidelity it is often helpful for the couple to agree that the spouse who has been cheated should start the divorce process. This can often help to provide closure.

In a similar way, whilst the infidelity in and of itself will not result in there being a different outcome when it comes to the appropriate division of the financial resources or the arrangements for the children, allowing time for the individuals involved to come to terms with what has happened can have a huge impact. The process of discussing and agreeing the practical implications following a separation are challenging enough, if people have not allowed themselves space to process the ending of their relationship this can lead to more acrimony.

If a decision is made to progress a relationship with the person that a spouse had an affair with, this can have wider implications, particularly in relation to financial matters. If they choose to live together then their ability to share outgoings will be taken into consideration, as will any potential of pooling assets (or mortgage capacities) to house themselves moving forward.

Similarly, their suitability to be around children will also be considered and could result in different arrangements if they are deemed to pose any risk to the children.

If this is something that you are concerned about it is important that you take early legal advice so that you can ensure that your separation does not become unnecessarily acrimonious.

About Zoe Rose

Zoe Rose is a Family Team Leader & Senior Associate at Hedges Law. She has specialised in family law supporting individuals and their families through periods of significant change for over 10 years. Zoe is committed to providing honest and concise advice so that her clients are clear on their position and all possible options from the outset.

A Complete Guide to Getting a Divorce: Navigating the Path to a New Beginning
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A Complete Guide to Getting a Divorce: Navigating the Path to a New Beginning

Chris Sweetman
Chris Sweetman
Editor at The Divorce Magazine
Director at Fair Result

Divorce, a term that carries weight and often marks a significant turning point in one’s life. Navigating through the complexities of divorce requires not only emotional resilience but also a practical understanding of the legal and financial aspects involved.

In this comprehensive guide, we’ll delve deeper into key elements of the divorce process, including the shift towards no-fault divorce, effective co-parenting strategies, the importance of fair divorce settlements, and managing finances during and after divorce.

I. Understanding Divorce:

A. The Decision-Making Process:

1. Emotional considerations:
Embarking on the path of divorce is a deeply emotional journey. The decision-making process involves navigating complex feelings of sadness, anger, and uncertainty. Acknowledging and understanding these emotions is paramount for making informed and rational decisions during this challenging time.

2. Seeking counselling and professional advice:

In this emotionally charged process, seeking professional guidance becomes a crucial pillar of support. Whether through therapy or a legal representative, professionals can provide not only practical advice but also emotional support, helping individuals navigate the intricate decisions involved in the process.

B. Legal Grounds of Divorce:

1. No-fault divorce:
The legal landscape of divorce has evolved, as we see the introduction of the no-fault divorce system. This legal procedure enables a married couple to end their union without having to establish that one partner was at fault for the marriage’s dissolution. Therefore, neither spouse is required to present proof of infidelity, abandonment, or any other type of marital impropriety.

II. Shaping Co-Parenting Relationships:

A. Importance of Co-Parenting:

1. Prioritising children’s wellbeing:
Focussing on the wellbeing of children becomes a central tenet in co-parenting. This involves creating a stable and nurturing environment, shielding children from unnecessary disruptions, and ensuring their emotional needs are met throughout the process.

2. Effective communication between co-parents:
Establishing open lines of communication is fundamental for successful co-parenting. It is important that there is an effective level of dialogue between divorced parents to ensure that decisions align with the best interests of the children.

B. Crafting a Co-Parenting Plan:

1. Custody arrangements:
Navigating the complexities of custody arrangements involves understanding the available options and tailoring them to suit the unique needs of the family. It is important that as a couple and with your legal representatives, you discuss the various options and possible implications of these.

2. Creating a supportive environment for children:
Beyond legalities, creating a supportive environment for children is paramount. This is not just a difficult time for you and your ex, it is difficult time for the children. It is important that you foster a positive atmosphere for the children during and after the divorce, emphasising their emotional wellbeing.

Conclusion:

Going through separation is undoubtedly challenging, but with the right knowledge and support, it can also be a transformative process leading to a brighter future. For a more in-depth understanding and valuable insights, download Fair Result’s Free Guide to Divorce, which offers expert advice and practical tips to empower you throughout your journey.

About Chris Sweetman

Chris Sweetman is an independent family solicitor, Editor at The Divorce Magazine, and Director of Fair Result – An award-winning law office who pride themselves on using innovative ways to help clients through the stress and complications of a marriage break down.

Chris can be contacted on 07500933818 or via email chris@fair-result.co.uk.

What if my Partner Refuses to Co-Operate in a Divorce? No-Fault Divorce FAQs.
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What if my Partner Refuses to Co-Operate in a Divorce? No-Fault Divorce FAQs

Jennifer Pollock.
Jennifer Pollock
Senior Associate Solicitor
Irwin Mitchell

Jennifer Pollock, Senior Associate in Family Law, from leading UK law firm Irwin Mitchell shares her thoughts on some of the most asked questions around no-fault-divorce since it came into effect on 6th April 2022.

What is a no-fault divorce?

Changes made to the law last year have revolutionised the process of divorce application. Prior to its introduction, you had to demonstrate that your marriage had irretrievably broken down by proving one of the following:

· The other person has committed adultery.

· The other person had behaved in such a way that you couldn’t reasonably be expected to live with them any more.

· You’ve been separated for two years and the other person agrees to the divorce.

· You’ve been separated for five years.

· The other person has deserted you for at least two years.

With the introduction of no-fault divorce, it is no longer necessary to justify why the marriage has broken down, you only need to confirm that the breakdown is irretrievable, but the divorce can still be challenged if, for example, jurisdiction is disputed.

How long will a no-fault divorce take?

In theory, a divorce could be completed within 7 months. There is a mandatory 20 week ‘wait’ between divorce application and the first stage of divorce (conditional order). This “cooling off” period ensures that there is a period of reflection before the marriage is formally ended. Once the conditional order is made there is an additional 6 week ‘wait’ before you can apply for a final order which legally ends the marriage.

Who pays the Court fee?

Usually if the parties issue proceedings as joint applicants they will agree to each pay half of the court fee. If no agreement is reached then the first applicant will need to pay in full. If they are issuing as a sole applicant, then the applicant will pay for the fee. Under the old rules the applicant could ask the Court to make an order that their costs were met by the other party. This is now only possible in very limited circumstances.

Can we use one solicitor if we are applying jointly for a no-fault divorce?

Some solicitors are agreeing to act for both parties if they are joint applicants. However, it is probably best to have separate independent legal advice especially if you need to address your financial separation alongside the divorce.

What if I don’t know where my ex-spouse lives?

An application can be served by e-mail, but a notice confirming such service must also be sent to the respondent’s postal address. If the address is unknown, then you will need to make an application to the court to serve by an alternative method.

What if they won’t co-operate with the divorce?

If you are a sole applicant, you can continue the divorce process without the consent of the respondent. Likewise, joint applications only require one party to proceed with the divorce. If a joint applicant wishes to proceed as a sole applicant to obtain a final order, they must give 14 days’ notice to the other party. If you are the respondent in a sole application, and you wish to move the divorce forward, but the applicant will not do so, if the conditional order has not been applied for, you must issue your own, new, divorce application and the timeline will restart for that new application. You can then only apply for the final order, three months from the earliest date on which the original applicant could have made their application.

About Jennifer Pollock

I joined Irwin Mitchell as a Senior Associate solicitor in 2021 bringing over 12 years of family law experience with me. I am passionate about providing the highest level of service to my clients with a personal touch. I practise exclusively in family law and specialise in all aspects of relationship breakdown, divorce, divorce in later life, cohabitation disputes, children issues and domestic abuse injunctions. I have specialist knowledge and expertise in advising high and medium net worth individuals on the financial aspects of separation including dealing with pension and business assets upon divorce.

About Irwin Mitchell

Irwin Mitchell provides legal and financial services to businesses and individuals operating from 17 locations across the UK. The firm is ranked as a market-leading legal services firm in the independent Legal 500 and Chambers UK guides to UK law with over 250 lawyers personally recommended. Irwin Mitchell Scotland LLP is a separate Scottish legal practice regulated by the Law Society of Scotland and has an office in Glasgow.

Step-by-Step Process to No-Fault Divorce in the UK
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Step-By-Step Guide to No-Fault Divorce in the UK

Chris Sweetman
Chris Sweetman
Director
Fair Results

A No-Fault Divorce is a legal procedure that enables a married couple to end their union without having to establish that one partner was at fault for the marriage’s dissolution. Therefore, neither spouse is required to present proof of infidelity, abandonment, or any other type of marital impropriety.

Understanding the no-fault divorce procedure is important for a number of reasons. For starters, it can dramatically minimise the mental stress and turmoil that is sometimes associated with divorce processes. Couples can focus on addressing issues without having to assign blame. Secondly, it can speed up the divorce process by eliminating the need for long investigations or trials to determine fault. Finally, it allows spouses to keep a sense of discretion regarding the reasons for their divorce, which can benefit all parties involved, particularly children.

Understanding No-Fault Divorce

A no-fault divorce is one in which neither spouse is legally obliged to show that the other is to blame for the dissolution of the marriage. Contrast this with a fault-based divorce, when one side is blamed for bad behaviour like infidelity or abuse. In a no-fault divorce, the couple just needs to say that their union has irretrievably fallen apart and leave it at that.

No-fault divorce, in the history of British family law, is a relatively new idea – coming into effect on 6th April 2022. Societal developments and shifting attitudes regarding marriage resulted in adjustments to divorce laws.

There are various advantages to a no-fault divorce:

  • Reduced Conflict: Not having to prove fault decreases conflict and stress between the parties, which is especially advantageous when children are involved.
  • Faster Procedure: Because there is no requirement for investigations or proof of fault, the divorce process can be expedited.
  • Privacy: Couples can keep their divorce grounds private, which can be less detrimental to their reputations and personal lives.
  • Emotional Well-being: The lessened conflict and accelerated process can benefit both parties and the emotional well-being of any children involved.

Eligibility Criteria

Before you petition for a no-fault divorce in the United Kingdom, you must first grasp the eligibility requirements. This section will walk you through the steps necessary to proceed with a no-fault divorce.

Residency Requirements

In order to petition for divorce in the United Kingdom, at least one spouse must be:

  • Resident in England or Wales, or
  • Domiciled in England or Wales if you are living abroad.

Duration of Marriage

Before you may apply for a divorce in the UK, you must have been married for at least one year.

Mutual Agreement

While mutual consent is not required for no-fault divorce, it can make the process go more smoothly. It might speed up the procedure if both parties agree that the marriage has irreparably broken down.

Grounds for No-Fault Divorce

The sole foundation for a no-fault divorce is that the marriage has irretrievably broken down. However, you are not required to present proof of any misconduct. It is sufficient to indicate that you and your spouse have disagreements that cannot be resolved.

Preparing for the Divorce Process

It is critical to be well-prepared before beginning the process of filing for a no-fault divorce. This section will walk you through the measures you should take to prepare for divorce.

Gathering Necessary Documents

Begin by gathering all of the paperwork you will require during the divorce procedure. These are some examples:

  • Marriage certificate
  • Financial documents (bank statements, tax returns, etc.)
  • Property deeds and mortgage statements
  • Documents related to any debts
  • Pension statements

Seeking Legal Advice

Even in a no-fault divorce, it is important to get legal counsel. A solicitor can assist you in navigating the process, advising you on your rights, and negotiating divorce financial settlements and child custody agreements.

Understanding the Financial Implications

Divorce can have a big impact on your finances. It’s crucial to:

  • Analyse your present financial status.
  • Recognise the costs associated with the divorce procedure.
  • Think about how your debts and assets will be allocated.
  • Make financial preparations for life after divorce.

Considering the Impact on Children and Family

If you have any children, their welfare should be your first priority. Think about how you can lessen the effect of the divorce on them. This can include:

  • Discussing the divorce with your children in an age-appropriate way
  • Making plans for their future residence
  • Ensuring that both parents are available to them
  • Taking into account their emotional needs and, if necessary, seeking counselling

Setting Realistic Expectations

Setting reasonable expectations for the divorce process is critical. Recognise that it can be both time-consuming and emotionally draining. Prepare to negotiate and potentially make compromises.

Creating a Support System

Having a support network in place can be quite beneficial during the divorce process. This could include:

  • Friends and family
  • Support groups
  • Counselling or therapy
  • Legal and financial advisors

Step-by-Step Guide to Filing for No-Fault Divorce

When you are ready, you can begin the process of filing for a no-fault divorce. Here is the divorce process flowchart & a step-by-step guide:

The Divorce Process, Step-by-Step
Divorce process breakdown flowchart.

Step 1: Preliminary Considerations and Preparations

Before filing, make sure you’ve thought about the consequences and are prepared, as outlined in the ‘Preparing for the Divorce Process’ section.

Step 2: Filing the Divorce Application

The ‘petitioner’ is the one who initiates the divorce. The petitioner must fill out a D8 divorce application form, which can be done online or by mail. You will state that the marriage has irretrievably broken down in a no-fault divorce.

Step 3: Serving the Divorce Papers to the Other Party

The other spouse, referred to as the “respondent,” must be served with the divorce papers after the application has been submitted. A copy of the application and a response form will be sent to them.

Step 4: Responding to the Divorce Application

Eight days are given for the respondent to respond to the divorce petition. They can accept the divorce or they can object to it. If they concur, the divorce is regarded as uncontested. If they can’t agree, it will be a defended divorce, which might make things more difficult.

Step 5: Negotiating Settlements and Agreements

Financial settlements, property division, and, if applicable, child custody and support, must all be agreed upon by both parties. You can accomplish this through mediation or a lawyer.

Step 6: Applying for the Decree Nisi

The petitioner may submit a decree nisi application after agreements have been reached. According to this document, there is no legal reason why you can’t get a divorce.

Step 7: Applying for the Decree Absolute

The petitioner may apply for the decree absolute six weeks after receiving the decree nisi. The marriage has been legally ended by this document. The divorce is finalised after this is granted.

Note: Attending Court Hearings (if necessary)

You might need to appear in court proceedings if the divorce is disputed or if there are problems that cannot be settled through discussion.

Post-Divorce Considerations

After the divorce is official, there are a number of things to think about and actions to take to begin your new life successfully.

Financial Planning After Divorce

Following a divorce, your financial circumstances may drastically change. It is critical to:

  • Make a fresh budget that matches your current income and expenses.
  • Bank accounts, insurance policies, and other financial products should all be updated.
  • Consider consulting with a financial professional for advice on managing finances after a divorce.

Co-Parenting Arrangements

Co-parenting will be a significant part of your life after divorce if you have children. Here are some tips for successful co-parenting:

  • Discuss the children with your ex-spouse in an open and courteous manner.
  • Keep the best interests of the children in mind.
  • Be adaptable and willing to make concessions on timing and other difficulties.
  • Consider using co-parenting applications to organise schedules, communicate, and share child information.

Updating Legal Documents

After divorce, it’s important to amend legal documents, including:

  • Your will
  • Beneficiaries on insurance policies and retirement accounts
  • Emergency contacts
  • Any powers of attorney

Focusing on Personal Growth & Wellbeing

Make the most of this period by focusing on personal development and restoring your life.

  • Setting new goals for your career, personal life, and hobbies is one example.
  • Participating in activities that provide you joy and fulfilment.
  • Consider counselling or therapy to help you go through your emotions.

How Can Fair-Result Help you Deal with a No-Fault Divorce?

Overall, divorce proceedings are complex, covering legal procedures, emotional well-being, and huge life changes. Individuals can manage this shift more smoothly if they focus on preparation, knowledge, and support. It is critical to approach the process with clarity and to seek the resources and assistance that are required.

And having the correct assistance and guidance is critical as you negotiate the difficulties of no-fault divorce. Fair-Result is here to help you get through this difficult period. So, if you require legal or financial assistance, feel free to contact our team.

More articles by Chris Sweetman.

About Chris Sweetman

Chris Sweetman is an independent family solicitor and director of Fair Result – An award-winning law office who pride themselves on using innovative ways to help clients through the stress and complications of a marriage break down.

Chris can be contacted on 07500933818 or via email chris@fair-result.co.uk.

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Perception is Everything in a Court Process – Being Open is always the Best Option

Peter Marples
Peter Marples
Director
Fair Result

Whilst 80% of our cases never see a formal Court process in the context of a FDA, FDR or Final Hearing there are always a few where the Court get’s involved. Never the ones with the most assets to argue about but more often than not truth a total absence of trust between the two parties.

The further down a court process you go, not only is it more expensive but you start to lose control of the outcome. So our motto is always to endeavour to settle your finances without a Judge getting involved.

We have unfortunately been engaged recently in more and more complex cases – very complex, not because the issues are actually complex but because one or both parties decide they want to be economical with their answers to questions or simply don’t want to disclose matters which they believe they an ‘blag’ away and it will never become uncovered. Our job as professionals is to read our clients behaviours and whilst we will always follow instructions we are not frightened at challenging them. Why ? – because If they aren’t truthful or transparent with the information and documents they provide it is more often than not because they want to hide something. Unfortunately very few clients are able to do this and the risks to them are significant.

Judges are there to look at the characters in the case as much as the information in front of them. They inevitably form judgements and an initial perception is one that often sticks in the mind of the judge as easily as it does with us – whether it is our client or indeed the spouse in the case. The biggest risk to an equitable settlement when the Court gets involved is not the numbers themselves, it is how the Judge considers the parties in the matter, whether they come across as credible and honest or do they try and dodge the questions in disclosure. Faced with this perception – it is difficult to overcome and if negative be aware the Court may just find against you when they are formulating directions and ultimately in a final hearing the division of assets. Remember the principle that a claimant should not benefit from being less than honest or open in their dealings with the Court. If a judge considers this, they are perfectly within their rights to find in favour of the opposing party and you might be left with a settlement that is not at all satisfactory. You are then on the back foot as we often say.

So the motto is to be open – it is always the best option because in protracted proceedings, things will be found out and it is our role to probe and press on what we find to the benefit of our clients. Don’t let the Court form a perception of you as someone who is less than open because the likely result is a settled that will not be one you are happy with.

The best solution is to settle matters outside of the Court process. We are focussed on doing just that – that is why over 80% of our cases settle without Court intervention.

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About Peter Marples

Peter Marples – Director of Fair Result and qualified accountant, with the determination to change the way divorce is transacted. For further advice on financial settlements and navigating divorce, use the contact details below:

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No Fault Divorce is a Good Start – But What More Can Be Done to Support Children Whose Parents are Separating?

Matt Buttery
Matt Buttery
CEO
Triple P UK & Ireland Ltd

Before 2021, couples seeking divorce risked getting caught up in a blame game, unable to separate unless one party was deemed to be at fault. Now, through ‘no- fault’ divorce, the first major reform to divorce since 1970, couples are able to separate more amicably, without finger pointing and conflict.

The implications of this for families, and in particular children, are significant. In a 2018 YouGov poll, 79% of respondents agreed that conflict arising from divorce negatively affects children’s mental health. By allowing parents to admit the marriage has simply run its course, children feel less torn between the two, without the pressure of taking sides with the parent who has been ‘wronged’.

But the legal system is still not perfect for families, and support for the children of separating parents continues to fall short.

With half of all children coming from separated households, and the effects of divorce on children well cited, it is crucial that we ensure the system works in the best way possible to help children grow up happy and healthy.

Recently, the Government suggested that mediation becomes mandatory in all suitable low level family court cases, excluding, of course, those including allegations or a history of domestic violence. This, alongside the current MoJ consultation, will help the legal system improve to better protect children from witnessing their parents work out family disputes in court. But there is still more that can be done to diffuse proceedings and reduce the conflict involved.

One of the biggest changes we all need to address is in language. Language matters – 99% of family professionals said small changes in language used in the divorce proceedings could make a big difference to a child’s experience.

This is because lots of the vocabulary used currently furthers the animosity between parents by pitting them against each other. Words such as ‘battles’, ‘versus’, ‘fight’, ‘opponent’, ‘dispute’ and impersonal references to ‘the child’ are not conducive to nurturing collaborative solutions.

Making the language softer, by using first names for example, shifts the discussions towards finding a joint solution that is best for the whole family. This is something the Family Solutions Group have been calling for, a campaign we are firmly supporting.

At Triple P, this is something we are conscious of too – our programme to support parents going through separation and/or divorce is purposefully named ‘Family Transitions’, helping the couple understand their divorce as a familial change, and not as a fracture.

Language and communication are of course important between family members as well. It is imperative for the way children process a separation, that parents are offered support. This is an upsetting time for the couple and it can be hard for them to know how to communicate what is happening with their family. Evidence-based parenting programmes that focus on family communication and co-parenting help parents develop the skills to resolve conflicts with former partners, as well as supporting their child(ren) and helping to build a new family identity.

By helping children understand as much as possible about what is happening, you help them process the situation and reassure them they are still important and loved. Not only this, a strong relationship between parents post-divorce will help them co-parent effectively after the separation.

Programmes such as Family Transitions work, and support better outcomes for families.  The challenge is how to make them accessible to the number of families that might benefit.  Current investment by the Department of Work and Pensions into the Reducing Parental Conflict programme has gone some way towards this. However, we need more scalable routes such as remote and self-directed online versions of these programmes – and at the end of the day they all cost money to access.

One thought is to widen the scope of the Family Mediation Voucher Scheme to allow these vouchers to be spent on parenting programmes. We believe in the importance of mediation, but also know the emotional readiness to engage is critical to its success. Expanding the scope of the voucher scheme to allow attendance at an evidence-based co-parenting programme alongside mediation, will help to support parents, allowing them to better engage with the separation process. By making these vouchers accessible prior to the filing of the C100 too, mediation and parenting programmes will be genuinely helpful, rather than becoming a tick-box on the way to court.

The family courts are moving in the right direction, with the no-fault divorce and the shift to mandatory mediation being the latest successes for parents and children. But there are still changes that need to be made. For any child, the separation of their parents can be tough. We need to ensure that the process affects them as little as possible by taking the ‘battle’ out of it, and ensuring parents are supported with proven tools so that everyone is given the best chance to understand and adapt to the new family situation.

About Matt Buttery

Matt is the CEO of Triple P UK & Ireland and holds responsibility for the dissemination of the Triple P – Positive Parenting Program® across the UK and Ireland. He is a passionate advocate of using evidence-based practice to help families and communities develop strong, healthy relationships and resilience.

Matt has held various senior roles in the voluntary, statutory and private sectors. He has influenced and implemented health and social care policy across government and held senior positions in charities. He is an Honorary Associate Professor in Family and Parenting Practice and Policy at the University of Warwick, Chair of the Island of Ireland Parenting Network, and is a spokesperson on children and family issues, appearing in national and local media.

Matt previously fostered for over 10 years, and is a former Trustee of the UK National Academy for Parenting Practitioners (NAPP).

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