Dealing with Outsiders during Divorce

Divorce would be much easier if it were just between the couple and their solicitors or mediator. “Helpful” people sometimes want to be in the midst of things and stir the pot. This would be similar to football teams such as Arsenal’s

Coping with Change

Every change, big or small, has some impact. Arm yourself with this eight-point guide. No matter how safe, secure, predictable and stable your life is, you will still have to cope with change at points along the way. Change is a normal

Dating After Divorce – Why do Opposites Attract?

Sometimes dating one’s opposite adds spice to a relationship or in other cases, tears it apart. The trick is knowing when someone is quirky vs. not the right match at all. Lust or the heady feeling of being in love can blind

Feeling Stuck in Divorce

We can go cruising through divorce and all of a sudden hit a speed bump and become stuck. This can come as a surprise when everything seemed to be going quite well. We do not move at an even pace on the

Leave Guilt Behind in Divorce

We may live in guilt for what we did or did not do while still married. We might think we could have tried harder to salvage the marriage or feel guilt over not putting it out of its misery earlier. Let the

Men Dealing with Divorce

Several men stated that post-divorce is the opportunity for change and be can be the catalyst for trying something new. They said when their divorced friends clung to the past they did not fare as well in the post-divorce period.  The past

How to Start Dating after Divorce and Infidelity

Wondering how to start dating after divorce and infidelity? If you were cheated on and find yourself single again then how do you begin to trust and date again? Infidelity survivors didn’t just divorce because they fell out of love or realized

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How to End a Marriage?

Joan bishop has been a family mediator for the past 15 years. She herself is from a fractured family, a process she still recalls vividly to this day, when she had to give evidence at her parents divorce at the age of

Thinking of Getting Back with Your Ex

It is so easy nowadays to reconnect with a long ago love. There are various online sites from social media to searching for classmates, which facilitate getting in touch again. What starts out as curiosity regarding the one who got away can

The Benefits of Solitude

I cam across this post on “The Benefits of Solitude” by Prof Stephen Joseph recently and thought it really appropriate in letting us know that being alone is not only all right but can indeed be necessary for our welfare and wellbeing.

Divorcing a Sociopath – Edith’s Story

Edith was barely twenty when she married a man whom she discovered later was labelled a sociopath. Max was handsome, charming and determined to have her hand in marriage. Little things did not add up right. Max told conflicting stories and blamed